I have heard every excuse in the book. I’ve also been one of the people who has used (told myself and others) every excuse in the book. In this blog, I have come up with some of the common excuses I have heard and have said to myself in the past. Excuses that many of you who are reading this are saying to yourselves right now in your life. Excuses that have stopped you in your tracks from accomplishing your goals and dreams.
1. I’ve got writer’s block….
You just haven’t sat down and forced yourself to write yet. If you sit down and FORCE and I mean absolutely FORCE yourself to write, you’ll write something. It might be shit. It might be the worst thing in the world, but (wait for it) it’s SOMETHING. Just sit down and start writing. It doesn’t matter what the hell it’s about. I’ve forced myself to sit down and right. For example, I’m sitting in my apartment and I’m staring at the wall. I wonder what Christmas lights would look like draped around the corners of the wall or what glow in the dark stars may look like on the ceiling. I just said some random stuff because I forced myself to. It was random, but it made me think of ideas for other stuff. Ideas for scenes. Ideas for sketches. Ideas for characters. Ideas. It’s amazing how that works. You can create anything in the world when you sit down and JUST START TYPING.
2. I can’t do that. It’s too hard…
You know why it’s too hard? Because you haven’t tried yet. Because you haven’t put the time in. Or you think it’s too hard because you’ve tried and failed. The difference between the winners and the losers is the decision to get back up after you’ve failed and say, “I’m back for more.” There is nothing scarier than the person who keeps coming back for more. Nothing worthwhile is easy. If it was, you wouldn’t be stressed about getting it. You want to lose weight? Go to the gym. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself isn’t going to get you anywhere. I once looked at people on stage and said, “I could never do that.” The moment I stopped telling myself “I can’t” and replaced it with “I can” was the moment my life changed. Don’t be discouraged by other’s success. Instead be motivated because you know you can do that too. You know that you’re just as talented. I was once told, “you’ll never wrestle at a Division I college.” I heard, “you’ll never perform there.” Even though I proved those people wrong I didn’t do it for them. I did it for myself. Being able to look in the mirror and smile at yourself because you know what you’re capable of is one of the greatest feelings in the world. You have more power than you could ever realize. Untapped potential. You just have to believe in yourself.
3. I’ve got no time, I work all day…
There are 24 hours in the day. You’re going to sleep 5 of them (you can sleep 8+ hours when you’re retired or on the weekend). You’re going to work 8 of them. You’re going to spend an hour probably commuting to and from work. What the hell else are you doing with the rest of your day? Watching TV? Texting? Writing motivational blogs? You have time. We all do. It’s what you do with the time you have that makes all the difference. Nothing is easy. It’s all going to take time but you have more than enough of it. Want to write that sketch? Stay up and write it. Grab a cup of coffee and write that damn thing. Wake up early and write. Write during your lunch break.
4. I can’t do anything, I’m heartbroken…
STOP THAT. TAKE SOME TIME TO HEAL AND THEN GET BACK TO WORK.
Sorry to tell you, but your heart will be broken. It will be ripped out of your chest and thrown in your face. Always when you least expect it. It can be because of failure (auditions), loss (death of a loved one) or it’ll be because of a breakup. It’s up to you (no one else) to repair yourself and make yourself stronger. You can talk to everyone in the world and it might help to get it out of your system, but at the end of the day it’s YOU that needs to say, “Enough. It’s time to make a change.” I know. It sucks. It hurts. It feels like the world is ending, BUT….it isn’t. Don’t let someone else have that power over you. Think about it like you’re Iron Man. You’ll be beaten down over and over and over again, but you’ll come back and rebuild yourself every time with stronger and stronger armor so that you’re unbeatable. We learn from our mistakes so that we don’t make those mistakes again.
5. I’m not good enough.
Who says you’re not good enough? People who are jealous of you? People who wish they had the talent you do? The hell with them. Trust me. You’re good enough. You’re better than good enough. You can sit around and be inactive because of what others think of you or you can go out there and get what you want in life because you know deep down that their opinion doesn’t mean anything. The only person whose opinion matters is the person you look at in the mirror. This one is more general because it can apply to pretty much anything an artist (or anyone) limits themselves to. I’m not good enough to play characters. I’m not good enough to be physical in scenes. Okay. You’re right. Now, change that to “I am.” I am good enough to play characters. I am good enough to be physical in scenes. Guess what? You’re still right.
With all that,
Start working. Start writing. Start lifting. Start dieting. Start ridding yourself of the people who put you down. Start moving on. Sit down and write out the things you want to do and then….DO IT. Stop telling yourself No and start telling yourself Yes. As cliche as it sounds, it’s true. You can do anything if you put your mind to it. You just need to make the decision to start putting in the work.
You’ll never know if you can win if you don’t play the game.